Men, what would your reaction be if you were to learn that your wife of some years had once been a man who was surgically altered to be a woman and never told you?
That’s what happened to a 64 year old man in Belgium.
His un-named wife was born male 48 years ago and eventually underwent sex-change surgery and hormone treatment to become a female. This happened some time before the two met. Then the male wife entered Belgium illegally and ended up working for the man and his first wife as a nanny. He thought the nanny was very attractive and ended up divorcing his first wife and marrying the nanny. He fought the immigration authorities to help the nanny get legal immigration status, eventually securing legal residency status for his new wife.
Nineteen years later, the male-nanny-wife began going out to nightclubs and carrying on email conversations with other men. Somehow He learned about it and discovered that she was really a he and that’s when the proverbial poop hit the fan. According to a Belgium newspaper, the man said:
“I feel I’ve been assaulted. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman… [and] even during sex, I never noticed anything.”
After making the discovery, he described what happened, saying:
“I pushed her against the wall and said. … ‘Are you a man?’ She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on. She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man.”
“My world collapsed. That evening came to blows. The police came.”
He is now seeking an annulment of his 19 year marriage on the grounds that he was deceived by his male wife. The Belgium courts are now finding themselves in a predicament over the matter. Feminist and liberal human rights groups are naturally siding with the male-to-female wife. Conservative groups are pointing to the deception as one of the most intimate and cruel types of deception possible.
Many of the liberal human rights groups, such as the National Center for Transgender Equality have been pushing to allow individuals that have proper sex changes to alter their birth certificates and other forms of identification to reflect their new sex. If this is ever allowed can you imagine how much easier it would be to deceive potential spouses who may never know that they may end up, in what some would still define as a same-sex marriage?
If you want my opinion, and you’re going to get it, I believe that he got what he deserved for divorcing his first wife for the lures of a younger spouse. Had he remained faithful and true to his marriage, he wouldn’t be in the situation now. When reading this story, I kept thinking of the words of Jesus in Matthew 19 when he was responding to question posed to him be the Pharisees about divorce:
“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ’Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matt. 19:4-6.